Character Traits that Build a Spiritually Enriching Marriage

What draws us to someone won't always make a good marriage.

Just because someone wants to marry doesn't mean they have what it takes.

Character Traits that Build a Spiritually Enriching Marriage


  • Spectacular Parent- You are choosing the mother/father of your future children.
  • Can Handle Conflict- Marriage will make you angry. Handle it wisely with grace. Conflict handled unbiblically will tear you apart. 
    • Stonewalling- shuts down, silent treatment
    • Violence- disastrous; one strike, he's out
  • Someone who prays- God is actively involved in their life. You need to marry a prayer warrior. If they never talk about God, they never talk to God. (But even they do talk about God, that doesn't mean that they talk to God). There's not a day within marriage where you won't need prayer. You will need prayer more than sex, so focus more on their spiritual life than their sexiness or physical looks. 
  • Someone who forgives- We will stumble in many ways. Grace makes the home pleasant. A legalist will bring tension. 
  • Communicates well
  • Humility- do they want to grow as much as they want you to change? 
  • Giver- it's exhausting to marry a taker who doesn't give. You will have to compromise on your life's call
    • A taker's response is always first and foremost about them
    • They'll give but almost always ask for something in return. 
    • How do they treat others? 
    • After spending time with this person, do you feel drained or rejuvenated? 
  • Is the Holy Spirit active is his/her life? Do they have the fruits of the Spirit? 
    • Does he push the boundaries physically? 
    • Are they at war with people?
    • Fits of rage/anger
    • Selfish ambition

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